Contest Win your wedding
FRFrançais ENEnglish NLNederlands ITItaliano Log in Start now My space
PlanningChecklist, Budget, Guests
Move forwardChecklist PlanBudget InviteGuests SeatSeating plan TellWed by voice
VendorsThe map, The Match, The categories
The map The Match The categories The regions Are you a vendor?
InspirationThe blog, The community, The style quiz
The blog The community The style quiz
The mapall of Belgium Log in Start now My space
FRNLENIT

The community is just starting, ask the first question

Here, couples getting married in Belgium ask each other questions and answer one another, and vendors from the directory can answer too. The thread has just opened: your question can be the first.

Ask the first question

Reading needs no account. To post, you need one, and it's free for couples.

54 question ideas 13 topics 3 regions

What's different here: a pro can answer

Elsewhere, couples answer couples. Here, a caterer can also answer a question about catering prices, and says who they are.

1You ask your question with your context

Your region, your budget, your date. Without that, an answer about a caterer's price means nothing.

2Couples and pros reply

Any wewed account can reply, couple or vendor. A pro who replies says they are a pro.

3The answer stays for the next couple

Questions and answers can be read without an account. What helps you today will help another couple in three months.

The community thread

Four kinds of post, thirteen topics, three regions. In the app, you can combine them all.

The thread is still empty

No question has been posted yet. Ask the first one in the app: couples and vendors from the directory can answer it.

Ask the first question
VenueCatererPhoto and videoDJ and musicDecoration and flowersDress and suitWedding plannerHoneymoonPhoto booth and entertainmentGeneral planningBudget and financesGuests and RSVPOther
BrusselsWalloniaFlanders

Questions to get started

The ones couples ask most often, sorted by topic. They are ideas, not posts: pick yours and ask it in the app, with your own context.

  • What budget should we plan for a wedding of 100 guests in Belgium, and how much per guest?
  • How do you split the budget between venue, caterer, photographer and the rest?
  • Every catering quote comes in above what I read in the guides: is 100 EUR per person normal?
  • We're over budget: what do we cut first?
  • Where can you save without it showing, and where should you never cut back?
  • What hidden costs will show up after signing?
  • Will the guests' gifts cover part of the wedding?
  • Who pays for what, and how do we open the money conversation with our parents?
  • How do you politely turn down a parent's financial help without upsetting them?
  • Marrying off season, on a Friday or a Sunday: how much does it save?
  • Where do I start, and in what order do I book? Am I already late for my date?
  • How many months ahead do we need to book the venue, the photographer, the DJ?
  • We are getting married in 6 months: is it doable and where do we start?
  • When do you send the save-the-dates and the invitations, and what RSVP deadline?
  • When should you buy the dress and how many fittings should you plan?
  • A wedding planner or a day-of coordinator, is it worth it on our budget?
  • What exactly does a wedding planner do, and what is included?
  • How do you check that a supplier is reliable, and what questions should you ask before signing?
  • Do you really need a videographer, or is the photographer enough?
  • Can a Spotify playlist replace a DJ?
  • Why do suppliers not reply to our quote requests?
  • Can you get the deposit back if you cancel, or if the supplier cancels?
  • How do we cut 25 or 30 people from the list without upsetting anyone?
  • Should you invite children, colleagues, the +1s?
  • Can you invite some people only to the drinks reception or the evening party?
  • How do you tell someone they are not invited without hurting them?
  • How do you chase guests who do not answer the RSVP without sounding pushy?
  • My parents are divorced: how do I handle the seating plan without a family war?
  • Do you need a singles table? A children's table, and from what age?
  • Who sits at the top table? When does the seating plan have to be final?
  • How long should a secular ceremony last, and who should you choose as officiant?
  • How do you fit the civil ceremony and the secular ceremony into the same day?
  • How do we include our children in the ceremony?
  • Can you ask guests to put their phones away during the ceremony?
  • What time should the preparations start? How long between the ceremony and the meal?
  • What do we do if it rains and the ceremony is planned outdoors, and when do we decide?
  • Who manages the suppliers on the day so that we can enjoy it?
  • How much time should you set aside for the couple portraits?
  • Open bar: how does it work and how do you keep the bill from exploding?
  • Is it acceptable to have only one witness, or no wedding party at all?
  • Should you do a first look before the ceremony?
  • How do you handle a mother-in-law who wants to decide everything?
  • How do you handle parents who pay and want to decide everything?
  • How do you avoid cracking under the stress while planning?
  • We can't make up our minds: how do we decide without regretting it?
  • Which details are you most likely to forget completely?
  • Which documents do you file at the town hall, and how long in advance?
  • Are witnesses required in Belgium?
  • Marriage contract or not? Marriage or legal cohabitation?
  • Do we have to file a joint tax return the year we marry?
  • Do you have to pay Sabam for the DJ?
  • Do you need cancellation insurance, and what does it cover?
  • Will our wedding held abroad be recognised in Belgium?
  • What income do I have to prove to bring my foreign spouse over?
Ask my question

Four rules, no more

A community is held together by what it turns down. Here's what we turn down.

1You give your context

Region, budget, number of guests. A question without context gets useless answers.

2A pro says they are a pro

Answering is welcome, passing yourself off as a couple is not. A pro who answers says who they are.

3You criticise a service, not a person

A mixed review is useful. A personal attack gets taken down, and the vendor has a right of reply.

4No soliciting by private message

A pro who answers publicly helps everyone. A pro who writes privately steps outside the community.

Your question, right now

It will help someone else in three months. That's how this grows.

Ask the first question